?Letter from my mother, Karen’s mother-in-law.
Received from Mary Elizabeth Isom in February 1995, from the best of my remembrance (Holy Spirit, help me with my ability to recall).
Hello, John and Karen. It’s late at night, and my heart is heavy. Your dad and I had a few choice words earlier. We got into a disagreement and argued back and forth. As I sit here looking back over 30 years of marriage, I am led to share some advice with you and Karen.
John, Karen is a super daughter-in-law. I can tell she loves being married and being a mother. She reminds me a lot of myself in so many ways; she is happy just being with her husband and child. I hope you can add to your family. Karen loves you, John, and I can tell you love her, and have throughout your five-year-young marriage.
John, as I write this letter, I am starting to feel better, for God is with me, and I know He will never leave me. Take care of Karen, John, and know that bringing home the money is not 100 percent of what it means to take care of Karen. Your dad has a great job and he brings home the money. He goes out every day to provide for his family, and he makes sure that, with the help of the Lord, any financial help needed is provided. Your dad has worked hard to provide for myself, your brothers Kenneth, Ronnie, Roger, Jeffery, and Reginald, your sisters Clara, Dianne, and Margaret, and you, John. He is the best provider anyone could ever hope or pray for.
Love Karen, John, with all your heart, because as you always say, you asked God for a wife and He blessed you with a super one in Karen. Now, as my heart starts to feel better and God provides comfort, I must say this to you. Providing financial support is not all it takes to make a marriage work. Making Karen feel happy and loved involves much more. You see, John, sometimes men think, “I’ve got a job, I bring home the bacon, as some call it, so that’s how my wife knows I love her. I got her a house, a car, clothes, jewelry, etc.” John, these things are nice, but that’s not all there is to loving your wife. You can do all these things and still have a wife who doesn’t feel loved. You can provide all of these things and still not provide other important things, like sharing yourself, showing affection, etc.
Here is my advice to you, John, my son and Karen’s husband:
1) Show and tell Karen you love her. She needs and deserves both.
2) Do not ever take Karen for granted and think that she will be with you no matter what.
3) Provide for Karen and the children, never forgetting that your helper is the Lord Jesus Christ.
4) Spend time with Karen, no matter how many children are added to the family.
5) Start saving and planning for the future. You will find that things just sometimes pop up and you have to dip into those rainy day funds.
6) Spend time with Joshua and the children that God blesses you and Karen with in the future.
7) Remember, your sons will learn how to treat their wives based on your example, and your daughters will learn how their husbands should treat them.
8) Remember that your dad and mom were not perfect, but we did the best we could.
9) Always respect Karen. She is the only one for you; there is no woman other than Karen.
10) Treat Karen and the kids the way you want to be treated.
Now, John, I want to address the matter of you and Karen buying a house. This is my most important advice to the two of you. A HOUSE IS NOT A HOME! It’s a good HOME, not a house, that is a blessing from God. John, as you know, your dad put us in this house in 1964, and we have been here ever since. I thank God for this house, where we have raised nine children—that’s what building a home is. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that when you and Karen get a house, you have a home. That is why I’m writing this letter. Houses are a dime a dozen, but a good home can be harder to come by. You and Karen will still need this advice no matter what house you end up with. If you do not remember anything else I’ve written in this letter, remember that a house is not a home! A good home in a house is a blessing from God!
I end this letter by challenging you and Karen to start working on your home now, before you get your house. Then, when you get the house, carry your home into that house. After being married for over 30 years, I have this advice on what a good home is: a good home can be moved from house to house and not only survive but thrive.
A home is a place where the following are in action:
John, you know, being a minister of God’s Word, that these are the fruit of the spirit. See Galatians 5:22-23: “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.”
John, if you and Karen ask the Lord to help you both go, grow, and do these things in your lives and marriage, your new house will already be a home when you enter into it. When I started writing this letter, I had no idea it would be this long. But now my heart is feeling better and I am glad I can share some wisdom that can help you and Karen make it through all the ups and downs that go along with marriage.
Father God, I pray that You bless John and Karen’s marriage. Help them to work on the home that you had me share with them. Help John and Karen to love each other, and most of all, Lord, bless Joshua and all the other children they are blessed with. I pray in Jesus’ name, amen.
P.S. Give Joshua a kiss from Grandma ?
|Associate Pastor John Isom 2017 View Of Prayer Request To God.
1 John Chapter 5:14-15
14 And this is the confidence that we have in him, that, if we ask any thing according to his will, he heareth us:
15 And if we know that he hear us, whatsoever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we desired of him.
1: I Am praying with Confidence
2: All my Confidence Is In Him
3: I Am asking this year according to His Will
4: I 100% believe He is hearing me.
5: I have whatsoever I desire of Him
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7: In 2017 I will do 1 Thessalonians
Chapter 5:16-24 To help me stay Confident.
16 Rejoice evermore.
17 Pray without ceasing.
18 In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.
19 Quench not the Spirit.
20 Despise not prophesyings.
21 Prove all things; hold fast that which is good.
22 Abstain from all appearance of evil.
23 And the very God of peace sanctify you wholly; and I pray God your whole spirit and soul and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.
24 Faithful is he that calleth you, who also will do it.
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